- Written by Andy Searles
Little is known or shared about a guy called Lamech … don't leave the kind of legacy that any of us would want. Lamech was the great, great, great grandson of Cain, and had two wives and at least a couple of sons of his own.
Lamech’s 15 minutes of fame do not reflect favorably upon him. We read in Genesis 4 (23-24) that he called both of his wives together for a family meeting. During this time he confesses, perhaps even boasts, to them that he understands how revenge works. He says; “I have killed a man for wounding me, a young man for injuring me.”
In the little insight we have about Lamech, he enters into a principal that we have been living and laboring under since sin began. It is a law of revenge and rights. It goes something like this, “If someone offends, hurts, or inflicts pain upon us, we have the right to pay them back”. I don’t know about you, but in my moments of anger and hurt my first response is to get defensive about my behavior and become aggressive in my response. For thousands and thousands of years we have lived under this law of Lamech.
But then Jesus shows up, and in the midst of turning the world upside down, introduces another way for us to respond when we have been wronged. Instead of seeking revenge, Jesus invites us to forgive. He changes the rules of the game and says “Before God, you no longer have the right to fight back, because God had the right to fight back against your sin, but instead chose the way of forgiveness”. Because God has chosen to forgive us, we are obliged because of our love for him, to forgive others. In fact Jesus goes as far to say that the level to which we are able to forgive others is the level to which God will forgive us.
Genuine forgiveness, Jesus says, is something that happens in our heart (Matt 18:35). And according to Ken Sande, founder of Peacemakers Ministry, heart level forgiveness involves making four promises;
- A Promise not to dwell on the incident
- A promise to not bring up this incident and use it against the offender
- A promise that I will not talk about this incident
- A promise that I will not allowthis incident to stand between us and hinder our personal relationship.
Tough stuff! Lemech established the law of revenge and retribution that is our default condition. Jesus established the radical notion of forgiveness.
Don’t follow the law of Lemech. Follow the way of Jesus